It's all about perspective

There was a study at Purdue University that showed that golfers that overestimated the size of the hole when golfing sunk more putts.

Further, when using an optical illusion in the lab, golfers sunk shots better there too.

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Perception matters.  And positive perception matters if you are trying to have a good day.

What we see and how we choose to perceive things can make a huge difference in how we do and how we feel.  
If you go into a situation at work (or school, or home) and expect that whatever happens is not a bad thing; not an attack against your happiness or your peace you'll see and hear it differently.  You will react to it differently.

In the same way, if you assume that Mondays will be Mondays or that every day not the weekend is less than the weekend it is likely that you will make it so.

None of this is a surprise.  But making a choice to see things differently may have surprising effects.

What's the worst thing that can happen if you change your views?  You'll make today a good day.

Holding on.

Take a moment and think of the last argument or fight that you had with you spouse or sibling or child or friend.  Think about how it started . . and how it progressed  . . . . and how it ended.

Did you hold on to it after it was over?  Did it color what you did with that person for the next hour . . or day . . or week?  Is it still affecting you?

Now let's go the other direction.

Take a moment and think of something that you did with a friend or spouse or parent or child.  Try to find something that was equally as powerful as the argument above.  Do you have it in you mind?  Are you smiling?

How long did those feelings last after the event was over?

Sadly, I'll bet not as long.

People seem to value anger and hurt more than happiness if we look at how they act.  And, while anger and hurt have value, they aren't more valuable.  The longer you hold on to them the less worth they have too.

Today is a good to to remember that good thoughts and happiness are worth holding on to.  The longer you hold on to them the better off you are and the people around you are.  Further, if you are holding on to hurt and anger and unhappiness today is a good time to ask yourself if they still have value to you or if they are stopping you from making today a good day.

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Are you looking?

Good days and happiness are everywhere around you.  They are not, however, going to spring out of a cake when you most need them to (most of the time).

Good days and happiness need to be coaxed out sometimes.  They need to be hunted like some wascally wabbit.

So, ask yourself, "How am I looking for happiness?"
Ask yourself, "Where am I looking for happiness?"

I'm not going to tell you that making or having a good day is inside you.  It won't always be there.  Further, it may not be with your family or with your friends either.

Your happiness may be in some random act of a stranger or it may be on a walk in the park.  It may be on a billboard or on a web page.

But if you aren't looking for happiness I guarantee that you will not find it.

If you are trying to lose weight and you are looking in the all-you-can eat buffet and not at the gym . . you are not going to lose the weight.
If you are looking to cut back on drinking, the beer aisle at the grocery isn't going to be the place to be.

Look for happiness if you want to be happy.

Look for good days to have good days.

Special needs

Last week, a very special girl got a very special gift from some very special ladies.  Take a moment and go read her story and then come back here.  I'll wait.

Emily Gras: Muses Shows True Carnival Spirit To Bullied Girl

Back?  Good.

Parents of special needs children are amazing people.  The amount of love and energy they expend is awe inspiring.  I can only hope that I could do what they do; day in and day out.

The thing though, is that we all have special needs.  We all have our special needs and we all know someone that have theirs.

Today is a good day for thinking about your own needs are and letting someone know.  Giving them enough knowledge to lift you up when you need it.
Even more though, today is a good day for finding out the special need of someone you know, or even a "consequential stranger" like the cashier or teacher,and fill that need.

For extra karma, or blessings or what-have-you, find a friend that has a real special needs child and find some way to do a kindness. Everyone wins again.  Make today a special day.

Virginia Saussy/ Muses

“Happiness, not in another place but this place...not for another hour, but this hour.” 
― Walt Whitman

Light

Don't live in darkness.
Choose to see the light.
Choose to BE the light.
Make today a good day.

New things

New things make me happy.

Sharpening a pencil for the first time.
Cleaning a counter off before cooking.
Shoveling snow that has not been tracked through.
Mornings.
First days of work (for me or others).
New notebooks.
A new operating system on my computer.
A box of crayons and a coloring book that has not been colored in.
A hardback book, fresh from the book-store.
Babies.
Packages on my doorstep (and even envelopes in my mail box).

New things can be wonderful and they can remind us that every day is new and that we only have so much time with the day before it's old. . and gone.

Take some time to look at the new around you.  Really pay attention to everything that's available.  It will become easier over time and it will make your days better.  It will make today a good day.